Most of us don’t pay too much attention to a first date. To many, it’s just a casual meeting to find out if we’re compatible with this other person who seems interested in knowing us better. But if you think about it, a perfect first date is a potential turning point in your life.
Not to put any pressure on you, but on every first date you go to, there’s a good chance that you may meet the person you could end up spending the rest of your life with.
If you’re the patient one who doesn’t mind waiting a couple of days to find out if your date likes you, all you need to do is wait for your date to call you *or you call them* and see if there’s a potential second date in sight. But if you’re the eager beaver who wants to know whether your date’s impressed while you’re still on the date, read on.
Wondering if your first date was a romantic success? Here are 18 signs of a good first date that can help you find out if your date likes you already!
18 Signs Your Date Is Into You
Have you ever been on a date recently where you thought the first date was going perfect? You probably felt the chemistry and the romance, and you just knew that the person with you liked you just as much as you like them. Heck, you may even be slowly and dreamily falling in love, while expectantly waiting for their next call or text.
But then, the call never comes.
Sometimes, you may think a first date’s all fine and dandy, while your date, on the other hand, may be clawing their nails under their seat and waiting desperately for the evening to end.
It’s easy to feel lost in translation when you’re on a first date, because both of you are obviously trying to be nice to each other, and no one’s going to reveal their true feelings unless the feelings are on the extreme side of lust or disgust.
But if you can be just a wee bit more observant, you’d be able to decode if your date’s falling for you or fleeing away from you in no time.
Here are a few signs that can help you find out if your date is interested in you or warming up to you. And once you see these signs, all you need to do is reciprocate back, impress them some more and wait for the happy feelings to overflow.
#1 The sitting posture.
If your date likes you and is having a fun time on the date, they’d have a hard time staying away from you. While talking, is your date leaning towards you most of the time during the date? Then they’re really excited to be with you. Additionally, if your date sits back in a relaxed posture while staring into your eyes between all the leaning-across-the-table, it means they’re really comfortable around you and rather like you.
#2 The unrestrainable smile.
A person who’s smitten by you or is infatuated by your presence can’t help but break into a warm smile for no reason at all during the date. You’d notice this more often when you’re saying something and your date’s listening to you with a giddy smile plastered across their face.
#3 Deep stares.
Your date stares deeply into your eyes while talking to you. And at times, even makes you feel rather uncomfortable and awkward. This is a subconscious move where your date wants to get closer to you, and longingly stares at you because they just can’t get any closer without the risk of coming across as a perv.
#4 Laughter and blushes.
Does your date laugh at the smallest of jokes you make? Or do they blush easily when you compliment them? Blushing and laughter are subconscious flirting moves that is very hard to hide when you’re in the presence of someone you have a crush on.
#5 Opening up. If your date enjoys your company, they’d have a hard time shutting up during the date. When two people like each other, it’s either awkward smiles and blushes *at the beginning* or incessant chatter.
#6 Stretching the date.
Does your date look for ways to stretch the date, either by finishing their dessert really slowly, by ordering coffee after dessert or by continuing the conversation even after the bill’s all paid and the table cleared? These are sure signs that reveal that this person doesn’t want the date to end. In all probability, your date may even suggest a walk or another place to hang out after the date.
#7 The teasing game.
As the date progresses, does your date start asking you personal questions or do they pull your leg and tease you often? No one makes the effort to tease their date playfully on a first date unless they’re trying to win them over with humor.
#8 Self conscious sexiness.
Does your date wet their lips discreetly often while glancing at your face or your lips? When you’re flirting with someone you’re sexually attracted to, you can’t help but feel self conscious about your own body parts. You may even feel the need to look down your own blouse now and then or stand up straighter, because you’d be very aware of your own body, especially where your date’s eyes linger.
#9 The copycat.
If the cutie you’re with starts to fall for you on the date, they’d subconsciously start copying your behavior. You lean, and they’d lean. You talk softly, and they’d start whispering too. It’s like both your bodies are bound by invisible strings, but in reality, it’s a subconscious effort on your date’s part to relate to you better and feel more connected to you.
#10 The next date.
If you like someone, you can’t wait to see them again. If your date asks you when they can see you again, or says something along the lines of “…I can’t wait to see you again…” or hints about the next time both of you can talk even before the date is over, your date is probably falling for you already.
#11 The touchy flirting.
Can you keep your hands off a sexy someone when you’re cozying up with them? Well, neither can your date! If your date is sexually attracted to you, they won’t be able to keep their hands off you while making a point or complimenting you. They’d use any excuse to touch you, be it your watch, your earrings, or your soft skin.
#12 You are their world.
A good sign to judge how much your date likes you is by noticing how much attention they pay to you. Have you ever noticed a newly hitched couple in a restaurant? They can’t keep their eyes off each other, irrespective of who’s around. Do you see that look in your date’s eyes?
#13 Exciting similarities.
During the date conversation, does your date get overly excited when both of you share similar interests? They’re obviously very happy to know that both of you like the same thing, be it movies, concerts or hobbies, and are probably looking forward to sharing the activity some time with you.
#14 So far so good.
Does your date tell you they’re having a nice time even when you don’t ask them about it? Your date is probably enjoying the date so much they can’t wait to share the information with you *of course, this could just be a conversation filler too, so keep an eye on the other signs*.
#15 The comfort zone.
Does your date sit really close to you as the date progresses, or do they walk really close to you almost as if both of you are attached at the hip after the date? All of us have a comfort space around us and if someone we dislike enters the space, it makes us very uncomfortable. On the other hand, if someone we like a lot enters our personal comfort space, we enjoy the feeling.
#16 The drive home.
Does your date offer to drive you home *or do they accept to get driven home*? If your date doesn’t like you or doesn’t want to see you again, there’s no way they would show you where they live just in case you turn out to be a psycho stalker. If you find yourself driving back home together after the date, it’s a good chance that your date likes you and would like to see you again sometime soon.
#17 The lingering moments.
While saying goodbye after the date, watch your date’s expression and body language. While hugging or kissing you goodbye, do they linger just a second longer, and do they move away from the hug slower than necessary?
If your date holds your hand softly and takes their time letting go of you, or if they dilly dally around even after saying goodbye, your date probably wants to do more than just say goodbye.
#18 The last goodbye.
Does your date look back at you more than once while walking away or driving away? If they do, they probably don’t even want to say goodbye to you just yet. If your date glances back at you and smiles *blushes sheepishly* as they move away, they’re smitten by you, more with each passing goodbye glance.
How many of these signs do you see in your most recent first date? Individually, these signs could be accidental at times, but if you experienced quite a few of these 18 signs, your date surely likes you and may definitely want to see you again sometime very soon!
How to Tell the Date is Not Going Well
On the flip side, you should also know the signs that your date is not into you. Here are some red flags:
1. They keep checking their phone
We all check our phones more often than we probably should, but when you’re on a date, it’s important to put your phone away and engage with the person sitting across from you. A companion who can’t put down his or her device is hinting how they feel the date is going.
2. They don’t make eye contact
If you can sense your date is shy from the moment you meet, then you’ll have to gauge their other behaviors to tell if they really like you. Someone who’s extroverted but still won’t look you in the eyes probably doesn’t want a second date.
3. They don’t attempt physical contact
You’re probably not expecting (or desiring) a ton of physical contact with someone you’re just getting to know, but the occasional knee brush or hand hold is to be expected. If your date makes absolutely no effort to touch you in some minor way, this is a signal that they may not be particularly interested.
4. They’re distracted when you’re speaking
It’s frustrating when you’re speaking to a friend who clearly isn’t listening, but it’s even worse when you’re telling a story to your date who seems more interested in the wallpaper than your words. It’s a sure sign you’re not the only thing on your date’s mind.
5. They don’t share anything personal about themselves
Dating is exciting because you get to know someone new. This is your opportunity to dig into their interests, thoughts, fears, and what makes them truly unique, so it can throw a wet blanket on the date when the other party shoves all of your questions aside.
So the next time you head out on a first date with someone new, remember these 18 signs your date likes you – and 5 signs that they don’t – and you’d be able to know whether your date is smitten by you or not before the end of the date. And if it’s going well? Time to bring out the big guns with these fantastic second date tips!